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DO be reasonable and flexible. Find out from your attorney what state law regarding equitable distribution,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], alimony and child support entitles you to.
DO listen to your attorney, he/she knows more than friend’s do.
DON’T get greedy. It doesn't matter if you wanted the divorce or your spouse did. Just because you're hurt and your emotions are running high, does not mean that you are entitled to more than the law allows. This attitude will cost you unnecessary attorney fees and the judicial system doesn't care about your personal feelings.
DO show them the love and attention they deserve. Make sure that they know they are not the reason for the divorce.
DON’T make your children feel like a "guest" in your new home.
DO be honest and up front. Judges know when the children are being used and do not look highly upon such tactics.
DON’T use your children as a therapist. They are not equipped to handle the emotional strain being placed on them.
DO keep a calendar for the children as to the regular visitation and special visitation such as holidays and vacations.
Divorce is a turbulent time. As such you may find yourself thinking and doing things that you would not normally do. Often times you will hear somebody say,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "I just don't know this person anymore. They are right. Most people do go through some sort of metamorphosis during their divorce. The most devoted of parents have been known to put their children in the middle. People going through a divorce tend to be much more emotional and rash in their decision making. We forget to think before we act, not realizing what the effect today's actions will have on tomorrow? The following is a list of Do's and Don'ts of things that seem simple enough.
DON’T call your visitation with your children "Your time" and base things around your schedule.
DON’T let your friends tell you what to do. Though they mean well they are not experienced in the coming and goings of a matrimonial courtroom.
DO use good business sense when deciding what to fight for and at what cost should you fight for it.
DO make the children feel that your new home is also their home. That should include whateve
DO arrange with your (ex) spouse for another time that you can spend with the children.
DON’T stop the children from seeing your (ex) spouse during their scheduled visitation time because he/she owes you money.
DO get professional help if you need it to cope with your divorce.
DON’T pay you child support late.
DON’T use your children as a negotiating ploy during the settlement process.
DO remember that the children have a social life too. They have soccer, birthday parties and friends. It is important that their social life be as normal as possible. They are not the ones who are divorcing, you are. So let them maintain a normal social calendar.
DON’T pick up your children for visitation if have been drinking or have been doing drugs.
DO pay it on time. Not only will you avoid legal ramifications; you are also supporting your children. Although you may feel the money is used by your ex-spouse for herself/himself, the money goes towards the rent/mortgage, food, clothes, utilities and other necessities.
DON’T let the children guess when they are supposed to be with you.
DO show respect towards your spouse in front of the children. If you can't do that then do not say anything at all. It will only come back to haunt you as well as send the wrong message to the children.
DON’T spend $1,000 on attorney fees fighting over a $150 piece of furniture.
DON’T put your children in the middle of your divorce. The divorce is between you and your spouse. The children are innocent victims.
DO try to resolve the matter with your (ex) spouse. If the two of you can't resolve the problem then contact your attorney to find out what legal actions you can take.
DON’T put your spouse down in front of the children.
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